Saturday, 17 September 2016

Best Ways to Reduce Anxiety in Your Relationships

In today’s world there are so many things that could cause you to be anxious and anxiety can put pressure on your relationships. Too much anxiety could also take a toll on your mental and physical health and impact the network systems that you  belong to.

 While feelings of fear and uncertainties could lead to anxious thoughts, you can take steps to reduce anxiety. Here are nine steps you can take gain control of you worry and relieve your anxiety in your relationships.
Don't allow anxiety to destroy your relationship.
  1. Challenge self-defeating, anxious thoughts. The things you say to yourself could lead to feelings of anxiety. So you might need to monitor your thoughts, and replace negative  thoughts with more rational and self-enhancing ones. For example, what thoughts do think about your spouse after an argument? Are you afraid to say you are sorry?
  2. Manage your time better. You could find that you get anxious because you feel unable to cope. Things could get overwhelming because of poor time management. Plan out the things you need to do each day and start with the most important task. Try and stick to your schedule as far as possible and ask family members for help.

Friday, 16 September 2016

How to Help Your Depressed Spouse

Maybe you recognize that things have changed in your relationship and you wonder why and what to do. For example, your spouse may have lost interest in daily activities, lacks of energy, and expresses hopelessness. 

Depression that is not diagnosed and treated in a spouse could take a toll on your marriage relationship and family life. As your depressed spouse withdraws from the relationship through lack of interest in intimacy you could be placed in a care-giving role. 

Your depressed spouse needs help,
Your depressed spouse needs help. Here are seven steps you can take to give the support and help your spouse requires.
Get Professional Help
The National Institute of Mental Health advises that the most important way to help a friend or relative that is depressed is to encourage the person to get the necessary diagnosis and treatment. This is the first and most critical step in your spouse’s journey to recovery. But in all of this you need to show compassion, love, and concern for your spouse.

Tuesday, 13 September 2016

6 Alternative Activities for Families who Watch Too Much TV

Take time to enjoy the outdoors together as a family.
Consider getting involved in activities that can enhance your marriage and family relationships through personal interactions. If your family watch too much television, here are six helpful and interesting alternative activities.  While there might be challenges as you seek to change, you can do it with determination, and your family could benegit immensely.
  1. Meal Time Focus
You could find that meal time can take on special importance for family time together. This could involve conversations, fellowship, building relationships, and sharing what is happening in family members’ lives. This important activity should be separated from the distractions of watching television.
  1. Read Together
Your family can spend time reading books, magazines, newspaper and other materials together. Take some time to visit your local library as a family and select books that you can read together. This could open a whole new world of knowledge and activities for growth within your family. The members of the family could be spending time together and learning at the same time.

Thursday, 23 June 2016

What is Your Style of Parenting?

Parents need to be aware of their child's need
There is no question that parents have a far-reaching effect on their children. Parent-child interactions and the atmosphere in the home are important factors in children's development. 

Diana Baumrind identified four patterns of parenting styles, that is, how parents interact with their children. These patterns are based on two aspects of parenting that result from:
  • the degree to which parents manage their children’s behavior (parental control), and
  • the degree to which parents are accepting and responsive to their children (parental warmth).
Four parenting styles develop when these two aspects of parenting (parental control and warmth) are combined in different ways. They are authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and neglectful parenting styles. 

Thursday, 16 June 2016

Best Ways to Manage Sibling Rivalry

Teach your children empathy,
Conflicts develop in every type of relationship but what is important is that your children learn how to deal with them. Many factors could affect how children get along and some underlying feelings could lead to sibling conflicts. 

Feelings such as boredom and rejection, competition for parental attention, and the temperaments of your children could lead to sibling rivalry. Dealing with your children's underlying feelings and their individual needs could lessen conflicts. 

Here are five ways to manage sibling rivalry in your family.

Build Affirming Family Life

 Children thrive in a nurturing home environment. In such loving atmosphere children are affirmed in words and actions. For example, you could hold regular family meeting where each child gets the opportunity to express his or herself. As you listen to your children and treat them equally, they get a sense of belonging and learn to  live together

Saturday, 11 June 2016

How Fighting Before Your Children Hurt Them

Take steps to reduce the tension in your home.
It is very important that as a parent you make every effort to protect your children from parental fights and disagreements as this could have a negative impact on children. While there will be conflicts in relationships, try to use positive conflict resolution strategies in your interactions.

A good place to start is to take steps to minimize the number of fights between you and your spouse in the home to reduce the harmful effect on children. Here are some ways fighting in front of your children could negatively affect them.

Thursday, 9 June 2016

Raising Children with High Self-Esteem

Make your children feel special.
Since self-esteem affects every area of a person's life, it is important to raise children with high self-esteem. Self-esteem is essentially how people evaluate themselves, and how they like the picture they see.

Children with high self-esteem will have a largely positive image of themselves. The core of their self-esteem results from their interactions in the family setting. Therefore their relationship with their parents is a vital source of their self-esteem. Here are five tips for raising children with high self-esteem.

Sunday, 29 May 2016

How to Cope With Empty Nest

See empty as season of  new possibilities.
Parents respond to the empty nest period in different ways. The grief that they feel after your children leave home is a reaction to their loss. Some parents find it difficult cope with the change of your children not being home. This sense of loneliness could lead to depression alcoholism and marital difficulties.

You could experience feelings of sadness and loneliness when your children leave home. While it natural to feel some sadness, if you experience a profound sense of loss over a long period you could be experiencing empty nest syndrome.

Monday, 23 May 2016

How to Rebuild Your Marriage

Infuse love into your  marriage.

Trust is a critical factor in any marriage. Various issues can impinge on the trust your marriage relationship including broken promise infidelity and alcoholism.

If you are experiencing difficulty in your marriage that involves trust issues, you can take steps to rescue your relationship. However, it will need patience and real commitment to ignite the spark of your love for each other again.

Sunday, 15 May 2016

Tips to Rekindle the Romance in Your Marriage

You fell love and in a whirlwind of happiness, you said your “I dos.” But over time, with kids, career and other commitments, your marriage lost some of the sparkle it once had.
Cultivate and protect your special times together.
You can change this situation and put the spark of romance back into your marriage. Here are five suggestions to rekindle romance in your marriage relationship

Show Your Love Everyday

Find ways to express the love you feel for each other every day. Express your love verbally, don't assume that that your spouse knows your feelings. Let your mate know he or she is important and show your gratitude for the things your spouse does for you.

Monday, 9 May 2016

How to Create a Sense of Acceptance in Your Child

Build respect and acceptance in your family.
We all have the basic need to be an important part of a group. The family is a special type of group that shapes the lives of its members and especially the children. It is essential that children find a sense of acceptance and belonging in their families.

Parents need to create home environments where members of family feel accepted and loved. Here are six steps you can take to create a sense of belonging and acceptance in your family.

Foster Nurturing Relationships

Creating a nurturing environment in your home fosters healthy family relationships and promotes a sense of belonging and acceptance in your children.

Saturday, 7 May 2016

Erikson's Psychosocial Stages of Child Development

Initiative vs guilt - children often seek to assert themselves.
Erik Erikson (1902 -1994) was born in Germany. He developed the stages of personality development which he called the psychosocial stages of development.

According to Erikson, people pass through eight sequential stages, through the process of socialization. Erikson emphasized the interaction of a child with his environment, so culture and the society are intertwined with the development of the child.

Friday, 6 May 2016

How to Earn Your Spouse's Trust

It takes time to build trust.
Trust is an essential ingredient in building healthy marriage and family relationships.  But it takes time and effort to earn a person’s trust. You also need to take care not to endanger the trust that you already share.

Here are six suggestions you need to consider as seek you to build trust in your marriage relationship.

Strive to Be Honest
Earning the trust of your spouse must begin with your own honesty and trustworthiness. Your behavior must line up with what you say. Your spouse wants to know that he or she can depend on you to speak the truth even in difficult situations.

Wednesday, 4 May 2016

5 Important Family Rules

Establish clear rules in your family.
Your family is held together by rules, spoken and unspoken. So as a parent, you would want to establish appropriate boundaries with clear rules to teach acceptable behaviors in your family.

These family rules are based on your values, reflect what you want for your family, and help to prepare your children for responsible adult life.

Saturday, 30 April 2016

How Control Issues Can Affect Your Marriage

Control issues in marriages could take different forms, but whatever the type, it can frustrate couples' ability to build intimacy and achieve important goals in their relationships. It is one spouse's wanting this to his or her way all the time in the relationship.

Controlling spouses take charge, needing always to be right in their relationships. On the other hand, their compliant partners feel inadequate and avoid sharing their ideas, dreams, and aspirations.
Are you a controlling spouse?

In the long run, control issues hinder couples from developing intimacy in the marriage and could lead to the break-down in marital relationships. Here are five problems control issues could cause in marriages.