Thursday, 29 June 2017

How to Stop Teen bullies in Social Settings

Public discussions focus a great deal on school bullying in many countries. But bullying is not restricted only to kids in the school yard. There are forms of bullying behaviors which are manifested by control, intimidation, and social group isolation.

Social and power differences are important factors that motivate teens bullies. Teen bullying in social situations could take several forms including causing the victim to be perceived in a negative way.

If you are experiencing bullying from another teen in social situations, for example at parties or on social media, this could cause you distress, hurt your feelings, and damage your reputations.

Here are four steps you could take to deal with teen bullies social settings.

1. Understand Bullying in Social Situations

Bullies intimidate others in many social situations. This could take the form of making unreasonable demands or demands which are not expected to be met. Social exclusion is another form of bullying where others are encouraged to prevent the targeted individuals from participating in group activities.

No matter what form social bullying takes, steps must be taken to effectively deal with the problem. This could include the “victim” becoming more assertive through greater self-confidence.

2. Build Your Self-Confidence

As a teen, an important area to focus on when you are dealing with bullies in social settings is your level of self-confidence. Self-confidence indicates that you have a good understanding of yourself and an appreciation who you really are.

When you are self-confident, you are assured of your abilities, and you are not largely dependent on others for affirmation. You have a positive view of yourself and with self-assurance comes your ability to resist the attempts of bullies to target you in social situations.

3. Become More Assertive

To deal with teen bullies, you need the capacity to choose to engage them, ignore them, or walk away. Respond firmly to bullies in these situations, but be careful not retaliate in anger. Do not allow the bully to control your actions.

Bullies are generally very insecure and sensitive to how others perceive them. Therefore, one strategy is to expose the bully’s insecurity making them less likely to continue to hassle you.

In the video, Dr Phil gives three teen girls advice for dealing with bullies. He encourages them to take their power back.

4. Take Steps to Educate the Perpetrators

You can deal with some bullies through educating them about specific bullying behaviors. In some cases the perpetrators are unaware that their actions are forms of bullying. You could also point out how he or she is exerting control intimidation, explain the specific ways this is taking place, and how it makes you feel.

It is important  that you respond to bullies’ intimidation appropriately and put an end to bullying behaviors towards you.

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© 2017 Yvette Stupart

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